Friday, April 26, 2013

SALVE. remedy?

I am a huge fan of reading magazines.  I like to read for fun.  It took me a good two months after I finished school before I quit taking notes on everything I read (CONFESSION:  I still do take notes.....ARGH!).  I came across an article about SALVE.  I cannot remember if it was Rachael Raye or Oprah but one of those magazines. The reason why I stopped because the headline read Love + Kindness= thinner thighs.  I am like......ya right.....right?  I am going to use ideas from this article.....although I cannot remember exactly how it went.  The article just got my thought process going.  I will add my own thoughts (which is a very scary thing)  LOL.  Enter at your own risk.....

Happy people are as unique and beautiful as snowflakes, while unhappy people are tediously, monotonously, excruciatingly the same.  Which is why I am not a psychologist.  Unhappy people drive ME crazy!  LOL.  Most unhappy people need to learn just one lesson: how to see themselves through the lens of genuine compassion and treat themselves accordingly. So does that make all unhappy?  We are our own hardest critic.  I am not asking us to become narcissists.  I am asking you to give yourself the acceptance, love, and esteem you'd give your best friend. They used the term SALVE: self-acceptance, love, value, esteem. No matter what problem you're facing, from a dreary commute to the end of your marriage, a little SALVE never hurts, and it almost always helps.
Shall we try it?  Here is what we have to do!!! 
We all know that being accepted unconditionally feels wonderful, while being hated, rejected, and shamed is devastating.  So WHY DO WE DO THIS TO OURSELVES?  If you won't apply SALVE for your own sake, at least do it for others'. Believing that you're not doing enough, that you need to work harder, often comes from a desire to give more to others: You "sacrifice" yourself out of love. But your nearest and dearest won't feel this love; they'll feel what you feel about yourself. This strange truth seems to have something to do with mirror neurons, brain cells that play a role in our ability to share other people's emotions. It takes the Golden Rule to a whole new level: Feel about yourself what you would have others feel about themselves. Once we have self acceptance, the weight starts coming off, we will get hired for that job we want and people want to be around us.  Learning to apply SALVE aligns you with truth: the truth that heals, the truth that enriches the world, the truth that finally lets you be uniquely, perfectly you.


Thursday, April 18, 2013

Rabbit the Cup! (and other inspirational crazy thoughts)

This blog is brought to you today by the crazy things my kids say.  The crazy things they ask, and the the crazy responses I sometimes get from them when I ask them a question.  If I have any advice to give it is to write down what your children say.  I would have books and books by now and be filthy rich!  LOL.  One thing I remember is my number four child (he is now 20) use to ask for chocolate milk by saying, 'can I have rabbit the cup?'.  Because of the Nestle Quick rabbit on the front of the carton. 
Here are the other ones I can remember.  I cannot remember exactly which one of my 8 kids asked me these so not sure who to give the credit to.  I just warn you...wait until this ride comes to a complete STOP.  Keep hands and legs inside at ALL TIMES.  HOLD ON AND HAVE FUN!

Why doesn't McDonald's sell hot dogs?
What is Satan's last name? (my five year old asked me this just last week).  My answer?  ask me!
Are people buried with their braces on?
How far East to you go before you start heading West?  (this is from my 11 year old)
Grape flavor smells nothing like grapes.....(from my 8 year old...a very good observation I might add)
When does partly cloudy become partly sunny?
Why do we say skate on thin ice?  I answered, why to you always get in hot water?
Why do you say beans, beans the magical fruit?  Beans are a vegetable (again my 11 year old)
How can laughter be the best medicine when people die laughing?
Why do prison buses have emergency exits (this is my 8 year old, I have to watch out for him).
How do you hand cuff a one armed man? (again my 8 year old)

There are so many more, but the one that takes the cake is the one from my 5 year old who asked me just last night....
Am I healthy enough for sexual activity?